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Yes you read the title correctly. Most of you are probably thinking that I’m furious, but I’m not. Not only am I not furious or even mad I’m feeling rather fine about it.
Before you start wondering about my love for my husband or my dedication to the sanctity of marriage you should know a little more about how I became so calm about my husband losing his wedding ring.
I’m going to say it simply: he loses everything and he never knows where anything is.
I love the man, but that is a huge thing to have to deal with all of the time. Some may not agree, but when you have to remind him the umpteenth time to give the assistant at the school the signed paperwork for E and it’s still forgotten it becomes more tiresome then you can imagine. This is only one example of the many many many times he has forgotten something.
Then there was the time we got a brand new car. They gave us the two keys to the car. I was so excited and handed him his key. He lost the key in the next 48 hours. I’m not kidding. We lived with one key because to replace the key he lost was too expensive. I feared every day that he would lose the one key to the car we had and then we’d be screwed. Luckily he never did. Maybe because he knew his life was on the line. I almost forgot to mention that he found it 4 years later in a jacket pocket when we were moving.
Back to the ring…
When he lost his ring the first time I was furious. Luckily his boss found it. Yes, he called his boss at the office at 7 PM and asked him to go look for it. His boss found it under R’s desk on the floor. Can you imagine this mid-40′s suit and tie lawyer on the floor on all fours looking for his newest lawyer’s wedding ring? Yup that’s what happened. R was mortified, but happy it was found.
There are many other times it went missing, but always showed up in the oddest of places. Like the time I found it on the tank of the toilet.
When he lost it this time and we’re pretty sure it’s gone I knew it was the inevitable. It was something I knew would happen eventually. How could it not right?
I came to understand something in all of these years though. The ring is just a symbol of his commitment to me. Many men wear wedding rings who are far less committed then my husband. The way I see it is I got the better end of the deal. I have a husband who is committed to me and our family 150%. He just has no physical symbol of it on his finger. We’ll get another ring eventually, and he’ll lose that one too.
I think there should be a category in Guiness Book of World Records for number of wedding rings collected while only married to one person. He might have a chance at winning.
R if you read this please don’t be mad I wrote it, you had to know I eventually would have to share your forgetfulness. Oh and while we’re on the subject, this won’t be the last time.
My husband is one of those too!
My husband lost his wedding ring for a year once – I was so annoyed! Then he found it in his softball bat bag the next season – seems he took it off to play during one of his last games and then forgot about it until he started playing the next year. We thought he’d lost it in a truck that we eventually sold and sold the ring with the truck!
I don’t think these things happen to women – why do they take them off in the first place?!
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Elsie- My husband has a million excuses. Most of which is that it needed to be resized b/c it was too big. I kept telling him that he should put it away until we can get it resized. My thought process was that it was better put away then lost. I guess I lost that fight. I’m glad I’m not alone. Maybe my husband will find his somewhere like yours did, but I have a feeling it went down a drain.
That’s awesome!
I would be devastated.
Probably b/c I’m the one who loses EVERYTHING and I have managed not to lose my rings so if he were to lose his, well I don’t know what I’d do.
However, after reading this blog, I know that if he did lose it, I’d eventually get over it b/c you’re right. Ring or no ring, I know he’s committed to our marriage and the ring really doesn’t mean a thing.
I really appreciate this post. I know our men do some annoying things but to have found that stage where it’s ‘winked’ at, it’s not a ‘big deal’ is wonderful….maybe I’ll get there one day, soon
- thanks!